Ah, self-care. It has become such a buzzword lately and I’m all for it, half of my blog is even dedicated to it. But I also acknowledge that it’s a privilege and isn’t always accessible. I also know that it’s not always easy to devote time to yourself. Especially if you’re struggling with your mental health, it’s probably one of the last things you want to do even though that’s when it could be the most helpful. It doesn’t have to be a bubble bath with Lush bath bombs and wine or going to a yoga class though. Enter: boring self-care!
Aka small everyday acts of self-care that are amazing, but often overlooked. Or tasks that are less glamorous or fun, but totally necessary.
Don’t get me wrong, I love me some slow mornings filled with self-care or candlelit evenings doing yoga, but it’s just not always the most realistic. When I’m struggling with my mental health, those are some of the last things I want to do, even if I know they’d fill me up. So today I wanted to share some tips for practicing self-care when it feels tough, whether that’s because you’re struggling, you’re a lil lazy (me too girl), or you’re short on time. As well as some everyday acts of self-care that should be celebrated! It feels good to realize you’re taking care of yourself, so maybe if you’ve been down on yourself and see something you did today on the list, you can be like “hey! I took care of myself! I’m a badass bitch!” and get a little boost.
@makedaisychains has popularized the idea of boring self-care and I’m all about it.
Drink Some Water
Seriously. Right now. I’ll do it with you…
Don’t you feel a bit better now? Making sure you’re keeping hydrated throughout the day is such a simple way to show yourself some love. Flowers need water to grow and so do you, boo.
Make Tomorrow Easier
Prep your breakfast, pack your lunch, pick out your outfit, etc for the next day to make tomorrow that much easier for yourself.
Whether you just step outside for a few breaths or go for a walk, that fresh air and sun on your skin can do wonders.
Tell Someone How You’re Feeling
If someone you trust and love asks how you are feeling, tell them the truth. You don’t owe them any details or explanation if you don’t want, but it feels damn good to just tell someone you’re feeling meh. Like a weight has been lifted.
Ugh, cleaning, am I right? But oh honey, having a clear space can help clear your mind so much.
Take a Shower
You don’t even have to wash your hair if you don’t have the energy, just pop in the shower for a quick little clean up. The warm water on your body will feel so nice and you’ll feel so fresh.
Make Yourself a Nice Meal
Putting effort into meals is one of the first things I give up when my mental health is struggling. So taking the time and putting just a little extra effort into a meal feels so good. I find when you spend some time and put some love into your food it’s so so so much more satisfying and enjoyable.
Do What You’re Craving
Your self-care doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. Just because Barbara says one thing is the best self-care doesn’t mean it’s what is right for you, babe. Whatever you feel like doing or your body is craving in that moment, that’s valid. Maybe today that looks like some juicy movement and tomorrow it means lazing around in bed reading for hours.
Drink Some More Water
Let’s take another sip together. Yeah girl, get it girl!
how I practice self-care when it feels impossible
Whether it’s because I’m busy or struggling with depression, my will to take care of myself goes down so quick. Even despite knowing a little yoga or drawing will make me feel better than melting into my bed with Netflix, I just can’t do it. This is a constant struggle of mine and I’ve found some ways to make self-care more accessible during these times. Sometimes you can’t even be bothered to do these and that’s okay too, boo. You’re doing your best and I’m so proud of you.
Wake Up Earlier
Having 10-30 extra minutes in the morning helps me a lot. Starting the morning off right helps set a better mood for the day. Some days I’ll cuddle my kitty in bed, meditate, do some sun salutations, sit and enjoy a coffee, do my makeup, or write in my journal.
Make Everyday Tasks More Mindful
Things like brushing your teeth, doing dishes, showering can all be made more mindful and it’s a great way to sneak in some self-care. Take that time to just breathe. Just simply breathe in, breathe out, and repeat. Some days I try to include mantras like “I am energized. I am grounded.”, “be here now”, or “you got this” – I just focus on those words as I mentally repeat them over and over with my breath.
If I set aside a time in my day for self-care, I’m a little more likely to stick to it. I like to knock things off my to do list, so it helps keep me a bit more accountable if I specifically schedule “self-care time” or “time to create” into my day.
Before you go to bed, write down at least one good thing that happened to you during the day. Even if it was a horrid day, think of at least one thing you’re grateful for. It can be as simple as “I got to sleep for 5 extra minutes”, “the moon was bright and beautiful”, “I ate a tasty meal”, or “my cat kissed my nose”. Now whenever you’re down or feeling empty, you can read through the list and be reminded of some good things in life.
Be Gentle With Yourself
Treat yourself with kindness as best as you can. Even if you didn’t do something you had been wanting to do or didn’t get all your work done. Beating yourself up or feeling guilty because you didn’t “self-care” should never be a thing. Please just be gentle with yourself, sweet pea. Things are hard right now and you made it out of bed – today that’s enough! Like seriously, that’s amazing and I’m so proud of you.
even more boring self-care
- Take your prescribed medication and/or vitamins.
- Make your bed.
- Do your laundry.
- Pay your bills.
- Reply to important texts and emails.
- Brush your hair.
- Hug someone you love.
- Put on makeup if that’s something that makes you feel good.
- Go without makeup.
- Allow yourself to cry.
- Book and go to your appointments.
- Admire your crystals, hold them, carry them around, sleep with them next to your pillow.
- Buy yourself a little somethin’ somethin’.
- Move your body – yoga, walk, jog, lift some heavy things, etc.
- Rest when you need it.
- Sleep in if you have a chance.
- Save photos that make you happy or inspire you on your phone to scroll through later. My photo stream is full of photos of my cat and Trixie Mattel…
- Ask for help.
- Dance to your favourite jam.
- Pick up that one thing off the floor you’ve been ignoring for days.
- Pick up some nourishing groceries. Vibrant fruits and veggies for your health and maybe some ice cream for your soul.
- Red lipstick.
- Watch a video of a show or movie from your childhood.
- Pick up a pretty leaf or flower and take a second to pause & think about how pretty it is.
- Look in the mirror and say something nice to yourself.
- Make a playlist of songs you like.
- Text someone you’ve been meaning to talk to for a while.
- Have an essential oil diffuser going or burn a candle. – Alyssa of Blissful Lyss
- Stretch. “When I’m studying I’m sitting for hours on end, and with a bad back/hips, it gets painful. I get up and walk every hour, but then I remember a 5-10 minute break now will help me. I stretch my hammies, roll out my feet and use my foam roller.” – Priya of Masala Travels
- Remember to take off your make-up before bed. – Catherine of A Cup of Catherine (Catherine has an amazing post on boring self-care too!)
- Cuddling with your pet – Farrah of Fairy Burger
- Drink a green smoothie. – Cindy of Cardio Coffee Kale
- Shutting everything down & disconnecting. – Dixya of Food Pleasure and Health
- Foam roll. – Akansha of Citrus and Gold
You’re doing amazing, babe! You’ve made it through 100% of the hard times thus far and that’s super badass. Please try to treat yourself with kindness today. You deserve it, sweetness.